Corporal Punishment In BDSM

Corporal punishment, or intended bodily harm, is one of the most misunderstood aspects of the BDSM lifestyle. For those outside of the BDSM community that see images or videos of women and men getting slapped, spanked, or tied up, they only see the one side of the situation, and they canít imagine the other side. Many of them are actually terrified of these images, and they just canít comprehend what might be going on. But for those within the community who have deep rooted needs for these types of behaviors, corporal punishment can be a release, a way to satisfy something inside them that is struggling to come out. It can be the most supremely pleasurable experience in the personís life, and it can make them a better person, capable of coping with the outside world and living an otherwise normal life.

There are a few ways that corporal punishment presents itself in the BDSM community. First off, it can be used strictly for pleasure by masochistic individuals that enjoy the sensation of pain. Again, this seems different to those without this need, but there are many people who find that the sensation of pain is quickly followed by the release of pleasurable emotions, making it an overall enjoyable experience. People that enjoy masochistic corporal punishment often enter into mutually agreed upon play sessions or relationships, and they consent to a certain list of behaviors such as spanking, slapping, or bondage. The masochistís consent is clearly given, and they enter into the situation in the full knowledge that the Dominant person is going to administer a beating of some form, intended to provide them pleasure. Terms for the session can be general or strict, but there are typically limits which are set to make this activity a bit more safe for the person on the receiving end of the corporal punishment. But again, the person receiving the pain is clearly asking for it and wants the pain to satisfy a need or a longing they feel inside.

The reason for this need can take many forms. Some people simply find pain to be the best way to experience joy and happiness, and the powerful nature of the emotions that come to the surface during a painful experience are almost like those powerful feelings that come from certain drugs. The pain intensifies the emotions of the person receiving the beating, and it can make them feel and experience things on an elevated level that is truly addictive. Others find they enjoy pain because on some deep seeded level, they feel they deserve to be punished. Perhaps they feel they are a disappointment in some way or that aren't who they present to the world. Whatever the reason, they feel a need to punish themselves for these imagined flaws and sins, and they turn to corporal punishment as a way to make amends and recant their shortcomings. Others still may have experienced pain or punishments in the past and need this type of activity in their lives to deal with those unresolved wounds. The reasons are as endless as the ways to administer corporal punishment, but they almost always satisfy a psychological need for the participant.



Another main category of corporal punishment in the BDSM community comes from those who find sexual stimulation and gratification from this act. There are many people who become aroused by pain and find that it can heighten the encounter in a way that nothing else can. The corporal punishment does not even need to be sexual in nature for most people who enjoy it to become aroused, although it can be administered to the buttocks, thighs, and genitalia. Many couples love to use corporal punishment in their encounters to heighten the experience, and it can be one of the best ways for BDSM couples to make their experiences that much more intense and satisfying than ones out in the vanilla world.

Corporal punishment can also be used as punishment for slaves or submissives in Power Exchange Relationships (relationships where one member of the couple is completely Dominant and the other is submissive). Again, this is agreed upon and consented to well before the corporal punishment ever happens, and it is a welcomed event by the slave. It can be used just in play sessions for arousal and intensity, but it can also be used as a method of obedience training. Many Dominant partners will use corporal punishment when their subs arenít meeting their expectations, and it is used as a corrective behavior in hopes that the sub will learn their lesson and modify behavior. A Dom can also use corporal punishment when the slave has not misbehaved as a simple reminder of their power and dominance in the relationship, reinforcing the roles they have chosen. Some Dom and sub couples also use corporal punishment as a humiliation training method, choosing methods that place the sub in lowly positions to receive their punishment. The pain can be accompanied with taunts, name calling, and other humiliating behavior with the intent of bringing about emotional catharsis. Again, this will seem different to non BDSM people, but this can help the sub to feel and experience emotions in a way that is more powerful and ultimately more helpful than they could otherwise.

There are many reasons why corporal punishment exists in BDSM. It is a powerful tool, one that should not be taken lightly, and itís not. It is always an activity that requires heavy consent from participants, and it is never used to actually punish someone that is helpless or unwilling. Those outside the community may see the images and think only of malicious motives, but for those within the BDSM community, they know that corporal punishment is more often a positive, elevating experience than a negative one, and thatís why itís been continued to be practiced so often and so frequently around the community.

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